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Mr. Luddite

On 3/17/2015 6:37 PM, wrote:

If you don't have it already, get a durable Power of Attorney for both general (financial) and medical. I'm going through that right now with my dad. He's still living in his house, but refuses to accept much help or admit he even needs it (he does, IMO). He's past the point of being able to take care of himself, but won't agree to go to an assisted living facility. We have a lady that comes in twice a day to make sure he gets food and meds, and my siblings and I do that on the weekends, but he really should be somewhere with 24hr care in case of a mishap. He'll have none of that, however. They can't force it on him, and neither can we.

It's really a sad situation.

Good advice. Fortunately that was done a few years ago when both her
parents were reasonably healthy and able to make rational decisions.

My wife has power of attorney for all their financial matters. She's
been paying all their bills for years. Her sister has the medical power
of attorney. Since they are both on the same page regarding the
remaining parent, there is no conflict.

Both are sad of course but at 90 years old, are hopeful for a fairly
swift and peaceful passing of their mother.

It's a lesson for all of us I think. These issues should be discussed
with off spring while we are healthy and clear headed. Wishes should
be documented in a will and power(s) of attorney should be put in place.

The last thing we should do is become a burden on our kids. They have
enough problems in this day and age.