Wilbur Hubbard wrote:


I understand because you're more like most of the people these days. But
that doesn't make it right or even productive.

Your daughter points out the difference in our outlooks. While your
daughter was anxious about your well-being mine just said, "Have fun,
Daddy, and be careful. I'll see you when you get back."

You raised your daughter to be just like her Dad - a dependent person
who worries. I raised mine to be just like me - an independent person
who doesn't worry. She's somebody who is secure and happy and does not
derive her happiness from an old man and I wouldn't have her any other
way . . .

Look at it this way. When you die your poor daughter will be
grief-stricken and lost while mine will say in her mind, "Fair winds,
Daddy, wherever you may be sailing now. It was good knowing you and I
will always love you for raising me to appreciate the way the world
works and to enjoy the positive and to reject the negative."


Now you know nothing about my dependency or independence. You also make
a great noise about being one salty seaman who is out there sailing the
seas (in what? where? with what crew?) while I know what I've done. For
sure, I can't prove to you that I have spent long time at sea both with
my (now late) wife and singlehanding. I also expect to be out there
again with my new wife.

I can't prove it to you nor can you prove to me that you can tell which
end of an oar goes in the water.

However, the blase claim you make about your daughter's attitude toward
you and even your death is chilling. For you to die and she to shrug her
shoulders and say, "Fair winds" and that's that isn't natural of humans.
Are you autistic? Is your daughter? I"m not teasing you. Instead I sense
in you not only a complete lack of affect, but an anger to those who
show affect.

-paul